adjustments
first let's do this because I read it and was bowled over.    “Grief can destroy you --or focus you. You can  decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and  you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning  than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you,  so you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter of each  day, and didn't allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But  when it's over and you're alone, you begin to see that it wasn't just a  movie and a dinner together, not just watching sunsets together, not  just scrubbing a floor or washing dishes together or worrying over a  high electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every  event and precious moment of it. The answer to the mystery of existence  is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes  you to the deeper beauty of it, to the sanctity of it, you can't get  off y...
 
